Tuesday, July 19, 2016

No Room for Your Opinions on My Womb

Part of my human nature is I like to hurry up to wait. I am perpetually early to meetings, social gatherings, the airport, you name it. When people pepper me with questions about having kids, it makes me feel like I'm behind and adds a thick layer of stress. It is a seemingly innocent question, but it's far more loaded than you realize. The very personal and private decision to procreate is, quite frankly, none of your business. 

My lifestyle isn't yours to question. You don't know, nor do you need to know why I'm childless. What if I had just gone through a miscarriage? What if I found out I'm infertile? What if I am not healthy enough to reproduce on my own? What if my relationship isn't in a good place? What if my mental or physical health isn't copacetic? What if I'm not in a financially stable position to start a family? I bet you'd feel pretty crappy if I gave you any one of those responses to your question about my family planning. 

I'm 28 years old and when people ask me if/when I'm having kids I feel like I need to drop everything I'm doing personally and professionally and pop out a kid. And I just don't want to right now! I've only been married for 2 years and I'm really, really enjoying this time with my husband and our cats. We'll have children one day, hopefully. But until I decide to share a pregnancy or even the thought of starting a family, kindly and respectfully back off. 

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