After talking to my girlfriends, I was put at ease. They helped me realize that i was in no way required to partake in the raunchy aspects. I didn't have to run around and bar-hop with phallic light-up jewelry; I could take a different approach. My wonderful maids of honor completely understood and we decided to go for relaxing, girly theme. We plan to go wine tasting and get massages and play some fun bachelorette games, but nothing too lascivious.